by Dr. Amy Beth Taublieb

When most of us think about the wide range of emotions associated with returning to school, it’s natural to focus on our children’s behaviors, feelings, and emotions. Indeed, typical articles and media segments about “Back to School” often examine how children adjust and struggle during this time of year. While that focus is certainly relevant, I want to shift the perspective a bit and consider adult psychological challenges that can occur in late summer or early fall—and there may be many!

First, we need to consider the issue of transition. Whenever someone experiences change, it is naturally psychologically challenging. Whether it’s a change in sleep patterns, responsibilities, or work schedule, it doesn’t matter. From the simplest to the most complex, humans typically resist change and find it difficult. Both behaviorally and emotionally, change often leads to more change, which isn’t always easy.

Perhaps just as important is that when children return to school, there are fewer people in the house. While this may seem like a simple, obvious statement, it has several implications. With kids at school, adults have more time alone—with themselves and/or with each other. Having young people in the house often acts as a distraction. When the kids are gone, adults have more space to think and connect. Issues that could be “swept under the rug” during the busy summer suddenly become harder to ignore. Whether it’s worry, anxiety, or even depressive symptoms, psychological struggles we managed to hide during the summer “busyness” tend to resurface. Additionally, relationship problems that were hidden behind pool parties, picnics, camping, and family trips tend to come to light again once parents spend more time alone.

I can’t tell you how many people return to my practice around this time of year, saying that issues they thought were long gone suddenly reappear. Hiding or denying problems might help temporarily, but it’s never a permanent solution! Before unresolved issues cause more pain, it’s best to address and resolve them so you can move forward and enjoy the life you deserve.

Dr. AmyBeth Taublieb is a Licensed Psychologist, author, media personality, and public speaker. She runs an active private practice offering psychotherapy and assessments for individuals, couples, and families. Interested in her services? Contact Dr. Taublieb at 716-834-1505, or visit her website at www.dramybeth.com.