People enter relationships to enhance their lives, but sadly, some become unhealthy and abusive. The National Domestic Violence Hotline says many abusive people appear calm and “normal” during the early stages of a relationship, but when abuse occurs, it often catches victims off-guard.
Family and domestic violence affects about 10 million people annually in the U.S. Roughly 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men are victims of domestic violence. Outward signs of abuse may not be obvious, and when emotional abuse precedes violent interactions, others might not be aware that anything is wrong. Here are some behaviors and early indicators that you may be dealing with an abusive individual.
- Wanting quick involvement in a relationship and coming on very strong after an initial meeting.
- Showing extreme jealousy, accusing you of an affair, or preventing you from going out because you might meet someone else.
- Controlling behavior, such as keeping all the money, and insisting you ask permission to do anything.
- Preventing or discouraging you from spending time with others, especially family members, peers, or friends.
- Making insulting, demeaning, or shaming comments, especially in front of others.
- Blaming you for problems or mistakes.
- Getting easily insulted and flying off the handle when angry.
- Expecting you to serve and obey at all times.
- Sudden mood swings and switching from sweet to violent in minutes.
- Intimidating you with threatening looks or weapons.
- Threatening to injure or kill you or someone close to you.
If any of these warning signs seem familiar, seek prompt help. Abuse is never the fault of a person who is the victim. In an emergency, call 9-1-1 or another emergency number. Help is also available through the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE.
